Real Pauses
Real change or transformation starts from within. We need to be the change – and this requires that we begin with taking real pauses and listen and connect with ourselves. If we are not connected to ourselves we cannot connect to others and we cannot bring forward transformation.
Many of us don’t know what a “Real Pause” is. In this video I will guide you so that you can learn and experience a real pause as this needs to be experienced and not explained.
Here are the details below for your further exploration.
The science of taking a real break (or pause)
1. Singel tasking
Find a place to sit where you will not be disturbed for 13 minutes. close your eyes and just allow yourself to be. Turn your attention inward by shutting out the outer world.
2. Focus on your Breath
Let feelings, sensations and thoughts be. Don’t change anything but just focus your attention on your breath. Notice how the air is a little colder when you breathe in and a little warmer when it leaves your nose or mouth. Tune in to every single inbreath and outbreath and let this be your focus.
3. Breathe in through the Nose
Nosebreathing is paramount for wellbeing and health. In the nose we have 10.000 of nerves that are directly connected to the brain and that stimulate the parasympathetic part of our nervous system that calms us down. Also when breathing through the nose the blood gas Nitric Oxide is produced – a blood gas that is a neurotransmitter, a vasodilator and also helps support the immune system. All this does not happen when we breathe trough the mouth.
4. Letting go though the mouth
It is easier to relax and let go if you open up your jaw a bit on the outbreath. It should be so that if you were to sit with your mouth open like this for 5 minutes you would start drooling. It needs to be more open than you think. The reason for this is that an open jaw sends a response to the nervous system that we are at ease. Normally many of us would be clenching the jaw as if we were in fight mode and in the need to push trough. Nobody fights with their mount open and thats why opening the jaw is a hack to calm down faster.
5. Letting go with sound
The vibration of sound is very stimulating and can also reveals a lot about how we feel. Is it strenuous to let go with sound – does it reveal anger, pressure or maybe it sounds relaxing or even enjoyable. Play around with this and take notice of just how difficult it might be for you to actually let go naturally with sound.
6. Change your mindset
The breathing will make you sense and feel and connect you with yourself. And all sensations and feelings are welcome. And when you realise this and allow for this connection you might notice just how this actually feels ok or even good. Acknowledge this by allowing the inner smile to be a real smile on your face. This supercharges the effect as we now also align our mindset and way of thinking with our breathing.
7. Notice the quality of Real Pauses
When doing this practice for most of us the effect and quality of the “real pause” becomes self-evident. It is hard to explain but it is there. We sense a change and this is the first little fling of connection we need to cling onto and further dive into if we need to fully regenerate and bring forth transformation.
